The Relationship Most Forgotten
The month of February is very much about relationships, romance, love and commitment. So let’s stir things up a little bit this February 2009 — with change still fresh in the air. Let’s talk about a different type of relationship — your relationship with yourself.
There is no better time than now to take stock of who you are, who you think you are vs. how you are really living your days. Where are you going and why? What’s important to you? Are you centered on who you want to be? It is a good idea to stop and contemplate the state of your union with yourself and write your thoughts in a journal.
Here are some other questions I use when power coaching my clients in this area:
- What positive/negative characteristics do you have that you like/dislike about yourself?
- Why do you like/dislike these characteristics? (this is where we explore feelings and I have a chart to help you!)
- What are the benefits to you having this characteristic? (yes, you benefit somehow even from the negative characteristic, or you wouldn’t hold on to it- I explore this with my clients)
Your values can also give you some guidance to decide whether you are on or off track with yourself. Are you living in alignment with your most important values? Some examples of values people live by are:
Family, connection to higher power, truthfulness, commitment, joyfulness, friendliness, competition, career, beauty, challenge, health, integrity, responsibility, service, justice, etc.
Once you have defined your most important values, you can use your journal again to keep track of your daily activities. After a few days, match your values list to your activities list to see how you are living out your values in your daily life. How are you doing?
As a coach I help my clients to identify their values, then begin to live them or live them more fully every day. You can begin the process yourself, and a coach can help you to gain clarity in reaching your highest potential! When you are in touch with your values and have the deep knowing of who you are and where you are going, your relationship with yourself becomes a solid foundation from which to overcome challenges and experience greater joys in your life! Here’s to you increasing the quality of your relationship — with yourself!
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Kim DuBrul has been coaching great clients for over 7 years and enjoys seeing her clients have breakthroughs and reach their goals during each coaching session. Kim can be reached at 802-985-2482 and by email.